The 2 Hopes—Part 2, The Good Hope

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In the first blog about Hope—the Bad Hope

I had hung my hat, coat, umbrella, sweater–you name it–on the Wrong Hope for decades.

Then one day a sliver of Good Hope that was  buried deep underneath the layers of abuse, rose to the surface and whispered, “You don’t have to be a martyr.”

And so, I held onto that sliver.

That knowing that I shouldn’t be treated that way (even though I couldn’t clearly define it), and the plea from my daughter to take her away from her abusive father ignited me into action for our freedom.

I said to myself, “My daughter and I deserve a happy and joyful life. I have one life to live and I am going to LIVE it.”

I didn’t know how that would happen.

I didn’t know when.

I just knew that I deserved a better life than the one I was living.

I wasn’t living my life really; I was barely existing.

I thought: This was my one precious life. I wasn’t going to let it go.

That  wisp of  Good Hope guided me  to engineer an international escape to my freedom.

A hope for a new beautiful life that I could have never imagined.

Once I realized that I deserved a life—a real, productive, joyful life where I received kindness—a new HOPE blossomed.

That Good Hope wasn’t big in the beginning, but it was enough to keep me going forward—that belief and expectation which are associated with Healthy Hope.

The Good Hope grew.

A Hope that I didn’t have to settle or accept being mistreated—ever again.

A Hope that squashed my fears of what would happen to my daughter and me once we left.

A Hope that drove us to our FREEDOM.

A HOPE that allowed me to become my authentic me.

To become an international award-winning entrepreneur.

To become a two-time best-selling author in collaborative books.

To be free of the barrage of insults that was my life for a quarter of century.

The GOOD HOPE that led me to find the Love of my life.

If I had reasoned with myself on what I knew based on my past, I would have never moved forward.

Do not limit your thinking to only your past. You have no idea what your future can hold for you.

Hanging onto the wrong HOPE is easy because it doesn’t require change.

But hanging onto the wrong HOPE destroys your soul and your chance to fully experience this life, love and kindness.

Dig deep, and ask yourself:

Which HOPE am I hanging onto?

One that keeps me back, or one that propels me forward into a life I can create?

One where I have to work hard to please the other and I’m dismissed?

Or, one where love, kindness, and respect flow with ease?

This is your life.

There is Good Hope. Will you go after it?

We see the end we are striving for, and that hope  gives us the impetus to move forward despite what life throws at us.

Having healthy hope actually produces several neurochemicals which creates a calming,  almost numbing effect so that you can overcome those hurdles.

That means your body and brain are working alongside you to help keep you on your path to your goals.

What can you do?

  • Focus on feeding your mind healthy hopeful stories.
  • “Knowing that you can figure it out,” even though you don’t know what that is at the moment, is a hopeful statement.

That phrase alone makes you feel good, and you shift from hopeless and helpless to hopeful and empowered.

Practice these hopeful and empowering statements and notice how you FEEL.

  • I can figure this out.
  • I feel lousy now, but I know I’m getting better soon.
  • I have a healthy body.
  • I deserve to be treated with and have kindness in my life.
  • I don’t have to figure it out alone. I can seek the help from others.

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